Tuesday, March 31, 2009

MindSet

An elephant can lift in excess of a ton of weight with just its trunk. Still an elephant is conditioned to stay in one place with a weak rope and a stake. Only a small rope tied to its front leg holds an elephant. No chains, no cages. It is obvious that the elephant can, at anytime, break away from its bonds but for some reason, it does not. The reason is that, when the elephant is a baby and much smaller, it is tied to a strong chain and strong tree. The baby is weak but the chain and tree are strong. The baby is not used to being tied, so it keeps tugging and pulling the chain, in vain. A day comes when it realizes that all the tugging and pulling will not help and it gives up, thinking that it cannot break away from the bond. It stops and stands still.



And when the baby elephant becomes the mighty giant elephant, he is tied with a weak rope and a small stake. The elephant could with one tug, walk away free, but it goes nowhere because it has been conditioned to believe that it cannot break away. It believes that the rope can still hold it, so it never tries to break free.


REFLECTION: Like the elephants, we also go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before. We are also being held back by old beliefs and avoid trying something new because of a limiting belief about ourselves. At times, we are also held back by someone else's limiting beliefs about ourselves. Whatever we can conceive and believe, we can achieve.

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

An Inspiring Piece

Indeed an inspiring
story, please do read on.



I was born in a secluded village on a mountain.
 Day by day, my parents plowed the yellow dry soil   with their backs
towards the sky.

I have a brother who is 3 years younger than me.  I wanted to buy a
handkerchief, which all girls   around me seemed to have. So, one day I
stole 50 cents from my father's drawer.  Father had discovered about the
stolen money right away.

He made me and my younger brother kneel against the wall as he held a bamboo
  stick in his hand.

'Who stole the money?' he asked.

I was stunned, too afraid to talk. Neither of us admitted to the fault, so he
said, 'Fine, if nobody wants to admit, you two should be beaten!'

He lifted up the bamboo stick.

Suddenly, my younger brother gripped father's hand and said, Dad, I was the one
who did it!'

The long stick smacked my brother's back repeatedly.  Father was so angry
that he kept on whipping my brother until he lost his breath.

After that, he sat down on our stone bed and scolded my brother, 'You have
learned to steal from your own house now. What other embarrassing things will
you are possibly doing in the future? You should be beaten to death, you
shameless thief!'

That night, my mother and I hugged my brother. His body was full of wounds from
the beating but he never shed a single tear.

In the middle of the night, all of sudden, I cried out loudly.  My brother
covered my mouth with his little hand and said, Sis, now don't cry anymore.
Everything has happened.'

I still hate myself for not having enough courage to admit what I did. Years
went by, but the incident still seemed like it just happened yesterday.

I will never forget my brother's expression when he protected me.

That year, my brother was 8 years old and I was 11 years old.

When my brother was in his last year of secondary school, he was accepted in an
upper secondary school in the central. At the same time, I was accepted into a
university in the province.

That night, father squatted in the yard, smoking, packet by packet.  I
could hear him ask my mother, 'Both of our children, they have good results? Very
good results?'

Mother wiped off her tears and sighed,' What is the use? How can we
possibly finance both of them?'

At that time, my brother walked out, he stood in front of father and said,
  'Dad, I don't want to continue my study anymore, I have read enough
books.'

Father swung his hand and slapped my brother on his face.

'Why do you have a spirit so damn weak? Even if it means I have to beg for
money on the streets, I will send you two to school until you have both
finished your studies!'

And then, he started to knock on every house in the village to borrow money.

I stuck out my hand as gently as I can to my brother's swollen face, and told
him,  'A boy has to continue his study; if not; he will not be able to
overcome this poverty we are experiencing. ' I, on the other hand, had decided
not to further my study at the university.

Nobody knew that on the next day, before dawn, my brother left the house with a
few pieces of worn-out clothes and a few dry beans. He sneaked to my side of
the bed and left a note on my pillow; 'Sis, getting into a university is not
easy. I will go find a job and I will send money to you.'

I held the note while sitting on my bed, and cried until I lost my voice.

That year, my brother was 17 years old; I was 20 years old.

With the money father borrowed from the whole village, and the money my brother
earned from carrying cement on his back at a construction site, finally, I
managed to get to the third year of my study in the university.

One day, while I was studying in my room, my roommate came in and told me,
'There's a villager waiting for you outside!'

Why would there be a villager looking for me? I walked out, and I saw my
brother from afar. His whole body was covered with dirt, dust, cement and sand.
I asked him, 'Why did you not tell my roommate that you are my brother?'

He replied with a smile,' Look at my appearance.  What will they think if
they would know that I am your brother? Won't they laugh at you?'

I felt so touched, and tears filled my eyes. I swept away dirt and dust from my
brother's body. And told him with a lump in my throat, 'I don't care what
people would say! You are my brother no matter what your appearance is?'

From his pocket, he took out a butterfly hair clip. He put it on my hair and
said, 'I saw all the girls in town are wearing it. So, I think you should also
have one.'

I could not hold back myself anymore. I pulled my brother into my arms and
cried. That year, my brother was 20 years old; I was 23 years old.

I noticed that the broken window was repaired the first time I brought my
boyfriend home. The house was scrubbed cleaned.

After my boyfriend left, I danced like a little girl in front of my mother,
'Mom, you didn't have to spend so much time cleaning the house!' But she told
me with a smile,

'It was your brother who went home early to clean the house. Didn't you see the
wound on his hand? He hurt his hand while he was replacing the window.'

I went into my brother's bedroom. Looking at his thin face, I felt like
hundreds of needles pricked in my heart.

I applied some ointment on his wound and put a bandage on it, 'Does it hurt?' I
asked him..

'No, it doesn't hurt. You know, when at the construction site, stones keep
falling on my feet ...Even that could not stop me from working.'

In the middle of the sentence, he stopped. I turned my back on him and tears
rolled down my face. That year, my brother was 23 years old; I was 26 years
old.

After I got married, I lived in the city. Many times my husband invited my
parents to come and live with us, but they didn't want..

They said, once they left the village, they wouldn't know what to do.

My brother agreed with them. He said, 'Sis, you just take care of your
parents-in-law. I will take care of Mom and Dad here.'

My husband became the director of his factory. We asked my brother to accept
the offer of being the manager in the maintenance department. But my brother
rejected the offer. He insisted on working as a
repairman instead for a start.

One day, my brother was on the top of a ladder repairing a cable, when he got
electrocuted, and was sent to the hospital.

My husband and I visited him at the hospital. Looking at the plaster cast on
his leg, I grumbled, 'Why did you reject the offer of being a manager? Managers
won't do something dangerous like that. Now look at you - you are suffering a
serious injury.  Why didn't you just listen to us?'

With a serious expression on his face, he defended his decision, 'Think of
  brother-in-law. He just became the director, and I being uneducated, and
would become a manager, what kind of rumors would fly around?'

My husband's eyes filled up with tears, and then I said,

'But you lack in education only because of me!'

'Why do you talk about the past?' he said and then he held my hand.

That year, he was 26 years old and I was 29 years old.

My brother was 30 years old when he married a farmer girl from the village.
During the wedding reception, the master of ceremonies asked him, 'Who is the
one person you respect and love the most?'

Without even taking a time to think, he answered,' My sister.' He continued by
telling a story I could not even remember.

'When I was in primary school, the school was in a different village. Everyday,
my sister and I would walk for 2 hours to school and back home. One day, I lost
the other pair of my gloves. My sister gave me one of hers.

She wore only one glove and she had to walk far. When we got home, her hands
were trembling because of the cold weather that she could not even hold her
chopsticks. From that day on, I swore that as long as I  live, I would
take care of my sister and will always be good to her.'

Applause filled up the room. All guests turned their attention to me.

I found it hard to speak, 'In my whole life, the one I would like to thank most
is my brother, 'And in this happy occasion, in front of the crowd, tears were
rolling down my face again..

Love and care for the one you love every single day of your life. You may think
what you did is just a small deed, but to that someone, it may mean a lot.

Have a nice day everyone! May this story inspire you in any way!

God is just so good and He's good all the time.  Remember, prayer does
change things!

Saturday, March 14, 2009

ONE PARAGRAPH THAT EXPLAINS LIFE!


ONE PARAGRAPH THAT EXPLAINS LIFE!


Arthur Ashe, the legendary Wimbledon player was dying of AIDS which he got due to infected blood he received during a heart surgery in 1983.


From world over, he received letters from his fans, one of which conveyed: "Why does GOD have to select you for such a bad disease"?


To this Arthur Ashe replied:


" The world over -- 50 million children start playing tennis, 5 million learn to play tennis,


500,000 learn professional tennis, 50,000 come to the circuit, 5000 reach the grand slam,


50 reach Wimbledon, 4 to semi final, 2 to the finals,


when I was holding a cup I never asked GOD 'Why me?'.


And today in pain I should not be asking GOD 'Why me?' "


Happiness keeps you Sweet,

Trials keep you Strong,

Sorrow keeps you Human,

Failure keeps you humble and Success keeps you glowing, but only Faith & Attitude Keeps you going...

26 things a perfect guy wud do

Things That A Perfect Guy Would Do

i don't know if its true...


1.. Know how to make you smile when you are down .


2.. Try to secretly smell your hair, but you always notice.


3.. Stick up for you, but still respects your independence .


4.. Give you the remote control during the game .


5.. Come up behind you and put his arms
around you.


6.. Play with your hair.


7.. His hands always find yours ..


8. Be cute when he really wants something.


9.. Offer you plenty of massages.


10. Dance with you, even if he feels like a dork.


11. Never run out of love.


12. Be funny, but know how to be serious.


13. Realize he's being funny when he needs to be serious.


14. Be patient when you take forever to get ready.


15. React so cutely when you hit him and it actually hurts.


16. Smile a lot.


17. Plans a romantic date full of cheesy things he wouldn't normally like to do, just because he knows it means a lot to you.


18. Appreciate you.


19. Help others out.


20. Drive 5 hours just to see you for 1.


21. Always gives you a peck on the cheek when you depart from each others company, even when his friends are watching.


22. Sing, even if he can't.


23. Have a creative sense of humor.


24. Stare at you.


25. Call for no reason.


26. Quit smoking, chewing, drinking, or drugs - just because he loves u that much to quit it.

Monday, March 2, 2009

A Violinist in the Metro

A man sat at a metro station in Washington DC and started to play the violin; it was a cold January morning. He played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, since it was rush hour, it was calculated that thousands of people went through the station, most of them on their way to work. Three minutes went by and a middle aged man noticed there was musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried up to meet his schedule.


A minute later, the violinist received his first dollar tip: a woman threw the money in the till and without stopping continued to walk. A few minutes later, someone leaned against the wall to listen to him, but the man looked at his watch and started to walk again. Clearly he was late for work.


The one who paid the most attention was a 3 year old boy. His mother tagged him along, hurried but the kid stopped to look at the violinist. Finally the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. All the parents, without exception, forced them to move on.

In the 45 minutes the musician played, only 6 people stopped and stayed for a while. About 20 gave him money but continued to walk their normal pace. He collected $32. When he finished playing and silence took over, no one noticed it. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition. No one knew this but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written with a violin worth 3.5 million dollars.


Two days before his playing in the subway, Joshua Bell sold out at a theater in Boston and the seats average $100.

This is a real story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of an social experiment about perception, taste and priorities of people. The outlines were: in a commonplace environment at an appropriate hour:


Do we perceive beauty?
Do we stop to appreciate it?
Do we recognize the talent in an unexpected context?


One of the possible conclusions from this experience could be:

If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, how many other things are we missing? Think on!!!!